Sunday, December 23, 2018

Winter Holidays 2018

This has been a magical year: My spouse found her long-lost son through 23&Me. She was looking for other relatives when his DNA sample, which had been sitting unpinged for 8 years, suddenly popped up after she sent in her saliva sample. It’s an understatement to say that touching, emotional reunions quickly followed in June and thereafter. Rather than him being resentful that she had given him up at birth, he knew long before that there was a good reason, and there was: She was a troubled teen who couldn’t give him a stable environment, her very ill mother died just four months after he was born, and her stepfather was abusive. About a year after the son was born, she left with her soon-to-be husband and had three more kids. The newly-found son is overjoyed to find he has three siblings, and they’ve been bonding ever since during these past six months. Friends can see pictures of the reunions on my Facebook page.

Sunday, September 11, 2011

Catching up


The invigorating beginnings of autumn are in the air and I've finally had time to do a little maintenance and updating of my woefully neglected blogs. I’ve added a few entries to The Bi Curmudgeon, helped Joan sort and put back together some rooms that grandson Jay cleared in order for him to paint and in order to make space for new carpeting, and then spent much of today watching TV coverage of the 10th anniversary commemorations of 9/11, which gave Joan and me a chance to discuss how the events of that tragic day changed us (or didn’t). For me, it reaffirmed and reinforced my belief in the need for people to proactively pursue understanding of different cultures and mindsets. In three and a half more months, it will likewise be the 10th anniversary of our son-in-law Bryan’s death; last month it was the 18th anniversary of my husband Thanh’s death. Like 9/11, these are tragic events, but again they reaffirm the need to fathom why these things happened—and why things like these events continue to happen—but they also provide an opportunity to remember the good times and good things. Among those good things are the creation of grandchildren and nieces and nephews. And to our surprise, today is Grandparents Day (according to our calendar), so while today has been a day of mixed emotions, at the end of the day (literally), it has been a positive one.  

Saturday, November 27, 2010

Around Thanksgiving

Considering I got laid off in February, we got burglarized in early November, Joan and I have been sick since before Thanksgiving and especially after, and we've had all sorts of other family, health, and financial challenges, you'd think I'd be less than thankful this Thanksgiving season, but I am thankful: This time of year is one of the most meaningful for me because it's the one time we purposely pause to appreciate. For the time being, Joan and I have landed on our feet financially; we weren't home when the burglar broke through the front door, so we weren't hurt physically; the grandkids are doing great; and while not all is right with the world, we're muddling through, same as our nation and globe -- which is all I'm realistically expecting these days, since voters seem bound and determined to underregulate banks, Wall Street, fossil fuel use, insurance, health care, and so forth, and since we're bound and determined collectively to live up to the Judeo-Christian Bible command to "multiply and consume the Earth," which we're doing with a vengeance. (Not discussed among many folks I know of is what happens AFTER we've multiplied and consumed the Earth, but I guess the answer's becoming self-evident.) And so...I am thankful that I was allowed to work with fine people at two newspapers for nearly 20 years total and that several of us still look out for each other (thus the reason I have a temporary[?] job right now); I'm thankful to have been privilege to have served alongside stellar journalists and others, and all the opportunities the jobs afforded me; I'm thankful for supportive lifelong friends, who are basically family, including two who have extended the comfort of their home while I hold down that temp job; I'm thankful for tolerant family members and friends who never abandoned me despite my foibles and faults; I'm thankful that Joan discovered BBC America, Netflix, TiVo instructions, etc., so we can enjoy all sorts of different shows together; I'm thankful for modern innovations (as long as they don't junk up the environment); and I'm thankful for pets we've had, as they are family, too. Above all, I'm thankful in general: for the good times that have left me with good memories; the present, which allows me to enjoy still; and the future, which we can enjoy planning for while living for today.

Friday, October 22, 2010

Help me vote on these Calif. ballot propositions

Hey, folks, below is a discussion about some of the propositions on the California ballot. Help me decide some measures and candidates (other than the obvious political ones). Some of the props look well-intentioned but seem to have hidden, unintended(?) consequences (or are they purposely Trojan horses?). Below I'd like you to comment on brief analyses, keeping in mind I haven't had time to read up on or listen to EVERYTHING said by the League of Women Voters says and various newspapers/blogs; local NPR stations don't seem to have good TEXT versions of analyses or synopses of transcripts (many are audio only, not written pieces); and newspaper editorials or reports aren't well-grouped, too hit-and-miss in their structures, leave too much unanswered, are "analysis" in name only, and/or are hard to find -- their "voter guides" or "election guides" are hardly guides -- but let me know if you have found a few good websites that DO offer concise, balanced guides!). As to judgeships, boards of education, city councils and county commissions, etc., well, any guidance and directions to good websites would be greatly appreciated!

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Props:

19 -- Legalize marijuana -- LEANING TOWARD YES BUT IT'S A MESS -- I was going to vote yes, but as Mom and others point out, it's deeply flawed. Against it are both the Dem and GOP attorney general candidates, both Jerry Brown and Meg Whitman, even Dianne Feinstein -- in part because no test is required for truckers, school bus drivers, etc. if they get in a crash -- they can't get tested for "driving under the influence"; its accounting is also at risk; paying taxes inherently self-incriminates vs. federal law; grass could be sold in the office workplace along with cosmetics and school candy, if those are allowed for fundraisers; billions of $ in gov't contracts could be voided because the state couldn't guarantee a drug-free worksite and would be in violation of federal law; and the list goes on. However, as former Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders and numerous others point out, we should accept the status quo -- that it is easier for kids to get MJ than beer, that precious law-enforcement resources are used to prosecute for small amounts of grass rather than collect taxes on it, that drug cartels thrive on the unregulated market, etc. So, even though it's flawed, it's a start, and I'm leaning toward yes, but my mom is voting no.

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20 -- Redistricting committee -- LEANING TOWARD YES BUT IT'S VERY FLAWED -- On the one hand, this takes redistricting out of the hands of the partisan legislature, which tends to gerrymander; on the other hand, it puts the control in the hands of 14 people (5 Dem, 5 GOP, 4 neither) who aren't chosen by the people, don't have to answer to anyone, could more easily be bought or influenced than 58 or more legislators, etc., and the prop in essence divides people by race and economics, theoretically. Julian Bond, the head of the Sierra Club, and the head of the California Black Chamber of Commerce are against it, as is the founding chairman of the Calif. Fair Political Practices Committee because it in effect codifies/condones Jim Crow segregation; but supporting it are the heads of the Calif. NAACP, Calif. Hispanic Chamber of Commerce, Calif. AARP, Calif. Common Cause and others. Those against it say this "pernicious" proposition "mandates that all districts be segregated according to 'similar living standards' and that districts include only people 'with similar work opportunities.'" I don't read it quite that way, but I haven't looked at the full text of the proposition yet to see if it actually says that; it does say, however, that in addition to not favoring incumbents over others nor favoring one party over the other, the committee will set boundaries in part based on "communities of interest" -- code word for economics and race? -- and will decide what the definition of that phrase means, but should include "a contiguous population which shares common social and economic interests that should be included within a single district for purposes of its effective and fair representation." Theoretically, this should give miniorities more power, but Julian Bond and others think not. Originally I was leaning toward yes, because we've seen what politicians can do and to send a message. (There's also a lot of pro and con about the prop's primary sponsor, GOP billionaire Charles Munger Jr., physicist and son of Berkshire Hathaway's vice chairman, vs. Demo billionaire George Soros, who is fighting it and supporting the contrary Prop 27, which would do away with the commission and the original Prop 11. A few years back, Prop 11 created the commission and many of the rules that Prop 20 would augment, but Prop 11 left the deciding in the hands of the legislature.) Prop 20 would put all the deciding in the hands of the 14-member commission forever and ever (well, until the consititution is again amended). Prop 27 does away with the commission and its rules and returns control
to the legislature. So if you vote yes on 20, you should vote no on 27 (or vice versa, although I suppose you could vote no on both, and everything would stay as is).

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21 -- $18 license fee to help state parks -- LEANING TOWARD YES, but will fund be overfunded?
Well-intentioned to clear up backlog of unfunded maintenance work? Or cynical voter manipulation to reintroduce "car tax" so funds can be freed up for other "wasteful" spending? See also Prop 26 re: requiring "fees" to be called "taxes" and thus trigger need for 2/3rd majority vote to pass.

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22 -- Ban on state borrowing of certain earmarked funds -- LEANING TOWARD YES BUT TERRIBLY FLAWED (purposely?). Well-intentioned (seemingly): Prohibits state from borrowing or taking funds intended for transportation, redevelopment, local gov't -- Trojan horse for redevelopment agencies and their developer friends? Cripples state's ability to pay for bond debt? Would hamstring state finances? On the other hand, I hate how the state eats the local governments' lunch -- but currently law requires the state to repay within three years, with interest. Currently it's basically a revolving credit, so the local/earmarked coffers are paid back and then diminshed again.

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23. Suspends AB32 implementation of greenhouse gas limits -- NO. This is that legendary slippery slope you've heard so much about: If not now, when? Meg and others say it would "only" suspend implementation until the state's unemployment rate stays at 5.5 percent or less for four consecutive quarters. We're at, what, 12 percent or more now -- it's not gonna come down anytime soon, and I think this will encourage more "green" jobs than kill other ones.

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24. Repeal law allowing businesses to lower tax liability -- LEANING TOWARD YES but will costs be passed along to the consumer, cost jobs, and not help schools?

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25. Simple majority to pass state budget -- YES, but does it eliminate the right of voters to use referenda in some cases? Opponents say yes, proponents say no. Tax raises will still require two-thirds majority, despite what the foes say. Supporting the plan are the California head of the League of Women Voters, and state treasurer Bill Lockyear.

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26. Requiring fees to be OK'd with two-thirds vote -- NO. Besides crippling municipalities and the state, it apparently would protect polluters: According to the LWV Calif. prexy and others, it was put on the ballot thanks to Chevron, Exxon Mobil and Phillip Morris. It redefines pollution fee payments for harm to the environment as a tax and thus a two-thirds vote.
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27. Contravenes Prop 20, Undoes old Prop 11, abolishes 14-member redistricting board -- LEANING TOWARD NO since I'm leaning toward YES on Prop 20 -- but maybe we can just wave a magic wand and the districts will magically draw themselves?

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San Bernardino County judges, school boards, water district, supervisors .... help!!!!

Sunday, August 22, 2010

Retirement and the world

Haiti's in ruins (even more than before), Pakistan is being swept away, Iran is testing nuclear reaction and global patience, and the U.S. economy is in shambles (which wouldn't be the case if the government had regulated and enforced better). Which leaves me back at work temporarily -- but isn't ALL work temporary? The idea that there IS such a thing as job security has ALWAYS been a relative term. And could I ever REALLY retire when so much havoc is going around? Wouldn't I feel guilty on a tropical island, knowing the rest of the world was falling apart? Well, yes. But then again, I've always believed in the adage: All things in moderation. So you pick away at helping humanity, then relaxing and enjoying life as best you can, then going back on the hustings to help humanity some more, and so on. So, no, I couldn't really ever fully retire, but neither can I be self-sacrificing to the degree I previously was. So: a balanced life, day by day.

Friday, June 4, 2010

Catching up

I'm sitting in the auditorium of Inglewood High School listening to its band concert (beginners, concert/advance orchestra and terrific jazz ensemble) after my sister Denise addressed the audience from the stage. What, you didn't know the IHS Arts Academy department chair "Miss Gardner" is my sister? Well, I've been staying this whole week at her home because my temp job near LAX is nearby, and it seemed sorta silly for her to introduce me as her "friend" when, heck, we grew up with each other. So out came "brother" :)

It's wonderfully odd and satisfying to see someone I've known all my life in the "outside" world now in her "element" as a teacher and leader (and running a video camera and getting the program handouts ready and checking the stage lights and... :). This is the third night in a row she's done this: Wed nite was drama, Thurs nite was dance and now Fri nite it's band -- each night she basically puts in a 12-hour day. And now she and the band director and the principal have made inspiring speeches about how budget cuts have impacted arts all over but this school has persevered. As I listen to a Sousa march played with gusto, a few tears come to my eyes.

It's a good cap to a long four weeks. After two busy months "off" as a "suddenly retired" person, I was kindly given an opportunity to fill in on a website for a solid two weeks and then immediately began a temp contract stint as a tech editor (did you know "architect" is a verb or that you can "mature" a project, or that analysis of the analysis by analysts was sent to the department of analysis to be analyzed?)

But as a result of being so busy, I've fallen behind in my blogging and Facebooking. Guess I'd better get crackin'.
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